There was a time when I thought I would always be the people pleaser. I would go out of my way to do things for others hoping they would reciprocate their appreciation, and we would then have a beautiful and equal flow of energy. Now don’t get me wrong, there have been and continue to be lovely and balanced relationships in my life. 💕

Fast forward to the present day. After years of personal development, healing, patience, taking personal responsibility for my part, and working on my own needs for validation, I have shifted my perspectives and reality. Rather than over-giving, and often it was my own doing; I now ask the honest questions of myself; Are we in a healthy exchange of energy, intention, and are the lines of communication open? Are they putting forth the same efforts towards the common goal? Am I putting too high of an expectation of reciprocation into the relationship exchange? 💕

Once I became transparent with my intentions, the other person’s intentions, and looked at expectations, I started to shift from people-pleaser to it’s ok if it doesn’t work out and it’s ok if they appreciate the extra efforts I have put forth. 💕

Do I sometimes catch myself moving towards people-pleasing? Absolutely, but I have learned to recognize the signs and pay attention to my feelings and my team of spiritual helpers. 💕

Believe me, some people are chronic takers, but some beautiful souls will appreciate and love us for the efforts we put into our relationships. 💕

Blessings and Light,

Laurie 💕